FattyHunter:
Sometimes when I’m in a restaurant and notice a sexy fat woman with friends or a date at her table or the bar I won’t send her a drink anonymously, I send her a dessert!
Sometimes when I’m in a restaurant and notice a sexy fat woman with friends or a date at her table or the bar I won’t send her a drink anonymously, I send her a dessert!
Excuse me, *what*?! You send a random fat person *food* — a person you don't know anything about — because *you* get off on their fatness. That's not "positive" that's just fetishizing and inherently fatphobic. Not all fat people are fat because they eat a lot of food or even enjoy it. If you had done that to me in a bar I'd be humiliated and furious. And you wouldn't know because I'm a stranger.
Sending drinks to people is already a bit of a risk due to factors (maybe it *looks* like they're drinking but they're not for whatever reason, or they don't like the beverage you sent if you aren't sending the same one they'r drinking etc) but it's still generally the socially acceptable way to signal to someone you noticed them.
1 year